Is there a wrong way or a right way when it comes to success?
Yes, you can often predict the potential of future success and lack thereof by certain personality traits and behaviours. Here are some pitfalls and possible character types to avoid and identify in these twelve characteristics of people who fail.
1. Being a Blamer
The blamer tends to always find someone or something to blame. "It's not my fault!" is the blamer's mantra. "Why is everyone else always messing things up for me?" "Why am I so unlucky?" The Blamer is someone who alienates others and people end up avoiding them.
When things go wrong; seek to be a problem solver, take accountability, and do not blame others. It is better and much more efficient to work with imperfection as you keep moving forward, and not spend time on finding someone to blame.
When things are not working out the way you might want them to use positive affirmations and shift your perspective to a higher level being in creativity.
Affirm to self; I learn from all of my experiences and situations. I am not a Blamer!
I am a creator!
2. Being A Cynic
The Cynic is distrustful of others, believing other people are only out to get something for themselves, trusting no one. This person often has deep trust issues when it comes to other people and the world at large, and seems to manifest endless reasons to continue in a loop of cynicism. We may have been hurt and betrayed in the past but fear of pain is not meant to dictate our lives nor create our future.
Affirm to self; I am not fearful nor cynical. I trust my self and others to be honest and open.
I recognise great ideas and positive opportunities. I am open to receive goodness.
3. Being an impatient Schemer
The impatient Schemer wants to believe there is always a way to get rich quick and believes in various money making schemes yet fails to see them through as they are too inclined to bounce between ideas that appear to have an "easy money button". This person tends to drag others into egotistical schemes with little regard or thought into the possibility of negative consequences and how it might affect other people. As long as "I" get my dream - we all win! might be the schemers motto. Stay away from impatient schemers and lofty dreamers and choose to be someone who truly commits to an idea that you feel wholeheartedly excited about from your own core and essence.
Affirm to self; I am committed to work to succeed! It does not matter how fast or slow I go, I remain committed to my chosen path... my commitment is my key to success!
4. Being an entitled Brat
The entitled Brat is a challenging one. This person believes the world "owes" them and they expect a big bonus for lifting a little finger. Also, others are supposed to be of service to these fragile little ego's or coddle them, yet not ask for anything in return. "I should get everything for free or special treatment because I'm important for just being me" could be the Brat's motto. Remember, nobody owes anybody else anything at all! We are all here to make our own way and free rides are not being offered. Always look for win-win situations and focus on finding the win for others as well.
Affirm to self; By helping others succeed I too succeed in so many ways. We all do our part!
5. Being Envious
The envious and jealous person keeps repeating patterns that result in greater perceptions of lack. Being envious and consumed by other's successes instead of focused on creating your own path. The envious one has a "they probably had to cheat someone to get to where they are" mentality. Truth is we do not need bring other's down to feel better about ourselves as it has the opposite effect. Jealousy is a waste of energy but it is a beacon into your own true desires. You can not be jealous of that which you do not desire.
Affirm to self; I am inspired by other people's success because it means I too can create the life of my dreams!
6. Being IQ and / or EQ challenged
Refusing to face reality and refusing to learn new skills necessary for success.
Truth is some people are IQ and / or EQ challenged and seem incapable of flipping their own switch and change their perspective. General intelligence can get people pretty far in life but low and underdeveloped social and emotional intelligence is pretty much a predictor for some type of future failure or a life lived within your own limits.
Aim to keep learning and growing and be open to learning about other people as well.
Affirm to self; By connecting with my insight and wisdom I nurture my self and create positive connections and relationships.
7. Being a Liar / Cheater
Once a liar, always a liar? When we notice people lie or cheat we get an insight into so much about their character. Beware from the moment you notice the first hint of dishonesty for that is usually just the tip of the iceberg. Pathological liars are the people who sell the "get rich quick" schemes at any cost, and do not care who they hurt in the process. They believe they have to con their way to the top but often do not experience true success as it is hard for them to lead a value based life. Just know that liars and cheaters exist and we are not talking about the "little white lies" meant to save a face or protect someone's feelings. When you get good at identifying dishonesty you avoid possible bumps in the road.
Affirm to self; I achieve success in life by being upfront and open with others.
I focus on creating open and honest relationships. There is a win-win for all.
8. Being a Criticiser
This person blows things up, and criticises everyone and everything. The criticiser's core emotion is anger. This is a tough person to help evolve as they are often stuck in contempt, anger and distrust, and tend to relate best to other criticisers, cynics and blamers. This repeats a cycle of negativity that can be challenging for one to get out of. If you are prone to criticising; STOP!
Notice when you do this and shift into gaining and creating understanding.
Affirm to self; I encourage and compliment that which I want to see more of in the world. Criticism gets me nowhere and is not for me! I ask empowering questions and offer my insights and compliments with joy.
9. Being a Perfectionist
The Perfectionist can miss the forest of success by being too focused on perfecting individual trees. "Everything has to be perfect before I..." or "Nobody can do it as well as I do it so I have to do it (when I get to it)." The Perfectionist is often a greatly valued worker who becomes a successful professional in certain areas but holds themselves back from evolving into true leadership and greater teamwork. Being too rigid and focused on perfection will hinder long-term success. There really is no such thing as "perfection" and sometimes "good enough" is just good enough! Do not wait for all to be perfect because if you wait too long, opportunities will be passing you by!
Perfectionists frequently experience burnout in their lives so be OK with a little mess and some uncertainty at times. It's all going to be just fine!
Affirm to self; Good enough is good enough and that's good enough for me!
10. Being a Quitter
The only difference between winners and losers is that winners are simply the ones who did not quit! People who give up easily or at the first sign of an obstacle will never stay the course or become strong members of teams and supportive relationships.
Remember; the ones who make it to the finish line are simply the ones who kept going.
Affirm to self; Persistence, persistence, persistence... helps me win the game.
11. Being Rigid
Rigidness is unhelpful.
"I don't need to tell you or help you, just read the manual" or "It's all laid out in the rules and processes... for this is how we do things". This person has a hard time being a team player as they lack flexibility and are not good at demonstrating gratitude.
Affirm to self; People may do things differently than me and that is ok. I am open to learning new ways of being & doing every single day. I am flexible and open to new ideas.
12. Being a Know-it-all
Yes, you may be super smart and highly intelligent but the smarter you are the less you need to flaunt it or try and prove to others how smart you are! The Know-it-all is a debater who needs to feel seen and validated, if not perceived as superior to others by their ability to remember or construe information. "Ok, so this is how we do it... this is how it is..." or "Nobody can tell me how to do things, I know it all already, I'm so much smarter than everyone else" mentality. Although others may easily experience this in your nature; you are the only one who can recognise if you are being driven by a need to feed your ego. Overcome your ego and help others learn and grow. Practice making other people feel good about themselves by complimenting and empowering their efforts and ideas. When you help others feel better and not smaller in your intelligent presence you too will grow and evolve. If you really are, as smart as you think you are, you will quickly come to understand that using your insight and intelligence to serve others will get you even further in life and business.
Affirm to self; I know enough to know for sure that there is little I can know for sure.
Ask yourself: Who am I being?